Marriage is an institution of God between a man and a woman designed to multiply and replenish the earth – to set up a family – to raise goodly children, disciplined and taught in the ways of God. Just like every other good and perfect gifts comes from above, marriage is one of them – he who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the Lord. Proverbs 18:22. It is okay, if you think you don’t want to accept God’s gift of marriage, that you can live without being married, able to control yourself without living in an open or covert promiscuity; but it is better to marry and have sex, than to go to hell for unlawful sexual immorality before God. 1 Thessalonians 4:1-8. Sex is uniquely reserved for marriage – to avoid fornication, every man should have his own wife, and every woman her own husband. 1 Corinthians 7:1-2. Sexual act before marriage is what the bible calls as fornication, which in other word is to act foolishly in Israel – it ought not to be done. Genesis 34:7. To this, the bible warns the present day believers to flee fornication before marriage. To wrought folly in Israel is when the husband found the wife already been deflowered by another man before marriage on the night of marriage when he approached to consume the marriage union. She shall be stoned to death; she’d played prostitution while in her father’s house. Deuteronomy 21:22. Fornication is a serious issue not to be played with in the church. A fornicator is seen a wicked brother or sister in the church. It can lead to excommunication and separation from the rest of the brethren if serious repentance was not found. 1 Corinthians 5:11-13. On the other hand, the marriage must take place if a young unmarried young man and woman come together in sexual union (fornication) just as it happened between Dinah, Jacob’s daughter and Shechem, the prince of Hivite (Genesis 34): if a man find a damsel that is a virgin, which is not betrothed, and lay hold on her, and lie with her, and they be found; then the man that lay with her shall give unto the damsel’s father fifty shekels of silver, and she shall be his wife; because he hath humbled her, he may not put her away all his days. Deuteronomy 22:28-29. It is very wrong to see divorce as a taboo or a bad tag on someone as some over-righteous and foolish Christians do for fear or shame of been called or seen as a divorcee – be not righteous over much; neither makes thyself over wise: why should thou destroy thyself? Ecclesiastes 7:16. But, if you look intently into the scriptures, you’ll find out that there are other biblical grounds to divorce apart from  Jesus informs the crowd that anyone who divorce, other than for reasons of unchastity, and marries another, commits adultery. Matthew 19:9. Marriage should be prayerfully considered, though people can change, but you don’t need to perish with anyone who chose to go a strayed, just as Lot heeded the warnings and refused to perish with his wife when she looked back against what was commanded. Who knows, ever thinks or expected that Demas could change from being an apostle at the mission field to abandon Apostle Paul for the love of the world? If it’s happened in the ministerial experience, it can also relate in marital experience! 2 Timothy 4:10. In the garden, before the visit of the serpent, for how long has Adam been teaching his wife – Eve that the fruit from the tree of knowledge of good and bad should not be eaten, until she suddenly changed and insisted that it should be eaten? It is written, and it was not Adam who was deceived, but the woman who was deceived and fell into transgression. 1Timothy 2:14. You cannot and should not love your husband or wife or anyone in your life more than God or in exchange for his will in your life – thou shall love the Lord thy God with all your heart, mind and strenght – this is the first and greatest commandment. Had Adam taken a strong stand on the word of God, he should not have died spiritually, neither had received the judgment of physical death from God; but could have been separated from her (Amos 3:3), and God would have made another Eve for him, but by compromising with her, he died with her in the transgression – one sinner destroys much good. Ecclesiastes 9:18. Though God says it is not good for a man or woman to live alone – two are better than one, they have a great reward for their labor. Ecclesiastes 4:9. It is also bad for any man and woman to think that in marriage, their spouse is now a prey to their narcissistic abuse and behaviors, having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof, that just because they’ve made an oath of a life time of togetherness, they now have the right to abuse them with toxic behaviors, living like a cat and a dog under the same roof (for, brethren, ye have been called unto liberty; only use not liberty for an occasion to the flesh, but by love serve one another. For all the law is fulfilled in one word, even in this; thou shall love thy neighbor as thyself. But if ye bite and devour one another, take heed that ye are not consumed one of another (Galatians 5:13-15) while the victim of domestic abuse abides foolishly, righteously and obediently because of the taboo or stigma of divorce, the fear of being called a divorcee, but slowly and internally dying until sudden heart attack or heart failure finally strike off. Note: marriage vows and promises are important to keep in faithfulness within the bond of the word of God, even the promises made by God unto us are valid within the bond of his word, otherwise we can make a breach of them, if we do not abide in his word and love – God can repent to change his mind. 1 Samuel 2:30. It is clearly written in the holy writs that God hates divorce because of: (a) the pain of scattering and destroying the labor of so many years of building together as husband and wife: (b) the effects and impacts of emotional pain of separation, spiritual impact, social, mental and moral dangers it poses for the children involves – if there are. Malachi 2:16. Divorce can inevitably happens if you find out that the supposed Christian spouse is bisexual – romantically attracted to both men and women, more than one sex or gender – sodomite, homosexual – thou shall not lie with mankind, as with womankind: it is abomination. Leviticus 18:22. Though, the world is trying to force inclusiveness upon the church as there are many open gays and lesbians tares in the church today, but I can’t see any serious believer on his way to heaven chose to stay as a Christian friend or spouse to a lesbian wife or a gay husband in a holy marriage – from such turn thou away – it is ungodliness and unholy practice. Now the question is, would God condemns you if you remarry, if you encounter such experience in you spiritual life? No, never. 2 Timothy 3:1-5. God does not want any sinners to perish, but sinners are going to hell every day because they chose the wrong way and refused to follow the way of truth and salvation to eternal life. We ought to live and enjoy our marriage until death do us part, but life in the marriage itself is not meant to kill us, not use it to torment or be oppresssive to one another. Our pains and sorrows should be shared together, but we should not become a thorn in the flesh, daughter or son of Belial to trouble our spouse – love practices no evil to his neighbor, love is the fulfillment of the law. Where is the fruit of the Spirit, where is the newness of life we are called to walk in daily before God, if we are not having or showing no moral principles; not honest or fair, ? Christian marriages are breaking up before us because the foolish woman is plucking down her own house by her own hand. Who is to be blamed or who is to pay for the damages done by the foolish woman to destroy her own home? Proverbs 14:1. When Vashti publicly disgraced her husband, she paid for her foolishness, she lost her marriage, and an humble and obedient better woman than her – Esther replaced her, –  that as long as the earth cannot bear an odious woman when she is married – neither should anyone bear or tolerate an odious woman in the marriage, except they want to die before their time, loose their sleep and appetite, saddened, depressed and always regretting, ashamed of themselves because of the shameless and arrogant woman besides them-for three things the earth is disquieted, and for four which it cannot bear: for a servant when he reigned; and a fool when he is filled with meat; or an odious woman when she is married; and an handmaid that is heir to her mistress. Proverbs 30:21-23. Nobody should be happy to divorce their lover: by the way, I don’t think any good hearted and god fearing man or woman enters into a relationhsip to come out afterwarrds, but when a spouse is not corrigible and reasonable, and they don’t want to grow, not teachable or willing to change, rather, they imposed ungodly ways and views upon you, to  neglect the word of God for their wishes, i think you have to chose, either to be like Ahab who sold himself to Jezebel and paid for it with his own life, or to resists and refused to be eaten up by the cancerous creatures besides you to an early grave – a good wife is her husband’s pride and joy; but a wife who brings shame on her husband is like a cancer in his bones. Proverbs 12:14. A gift is as a precious stone in the eyes of him that hath it: whithersoever it turns, it prospers. Proverbs 17:8. A Christian wife or a husband should not be taken for granted – both are precious gifts from God to one another – both deserves each other – both should always respect, appreciate and be thankful to God for one another with devotion and loving affection for one another. But, if godly value and appreciation is not placed on the spouse sent from God, there is a tendency to devalue the worth of your gift, especially, if your interest and expectation of profit is based or calculated upon worldly values of exchange, this can cause failure to produce maximum gain and blessings as dividends to the giver – God. If we cannnot marry our sister or brother from the same church where both have been converted and nourished in the word God, growing together unto an holy temple in the Lord, where should we look out for, to get a spouse, from the world, the unconverted men and women we are called to come out and be separated from them? But, When you think you’ve married a spouse with Christians values – married only in the Lord (1 Corinthians 7:39), but they changed to the ways of the world, and you don’t share the same values again in marriage – a divided house cannot stand. If believers begins to compare his or her marriage to other’s in the world, and one of them desires that it should be measured up to the standards of the world, they can fail, there’s no foundation of two different houses which are same, the structure of the building and maintenance cannot be the same either. Except a believer is sure that he has the grace to live a single life without deceiving himself or herself to live in secret sexual hypocrisy, they should marry – there are eunuchs, who have been so from birth, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by others, and there are eunuchs who have made themselves eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. These set of castrated people cannot perform sexual duty to their wives, hence they become celibacy, the state of abstaining from marriage and sexual relations. Matthew 19:11–12. 1 Corinthians 7:7. The widow young woman under the age of sixty years should be encouraged to remarry in the Lord (let not a widow be taken into the number under threescore years old, having been the wife of one man. Well reported of for good works; if she has brought up children, if she have lodged strangers, if she have washed the saints’ feet, if she have relieved the afflicted, if she have diligently followed every good work. But the younger widows refuse: for when they have begun to wax wanton against Christ, they will marry. 1 Timothy 5:9-11), except she really choose not to remarry like Hannah the prophetess who does not have any kid to raise up after the death of her husband, which departed not from the temple, but served God with fasting and prayers night and day. Luke 2:36-37. Luke 2:36-37.

To build and keep the marriage together to the end requires the willingness, mindfulness and co-operation of the Christian partners building togetther with God that built all things – except the Lord build the house, they labor in vain that builds it. Psalms 127:1.

Sometimes in marriage, because of the overwhelming stresses, challenges, misunderstandings and difficulties they’re encountering in their union, the troubles in the flesh (1 Corinthians 7:28 b), they may require separate space from one another for some time to reevaluate their priorities, pursuits and goal, when there is no such things as violent dealings, aggression, verbal insults, sexual unfaithfulness, this text and verses is applicable – And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: but and if she depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife. 1 Corinthians 7:10-11.

Recently, a pastor in Nigeria openly confessed his regrets for the wrong counsels given repeatedly for a long time to a deceased talented singer – a Christian sister who has been repeatedly abused verbally and violently by her jealous husband who is also a Christian, both in the same church. She’s been reporting several abuses with bruises to confirm her marital woes and stories to her pastor while the pastor kept encouraging her to endure – let’s keep praying my sister, God will touch him to change, with God all things are possible, you know that God hates divorce etc until the abusive husband finally sent the naïve sister to her early grave – this is the ignorant and unconscious accomplice of some too righteous pastors who tells you God hates divorce – stay in your marriage until you die, either by the hand of your husband or by Satan who want to see you off because your ministry is a threat to his kingdom. But, one thing I know, such abusive Christian husband – man’s slayer, and such evil counselor – the foolish pastor cannot escape the wrath of the law if it is in the western world or a developed -civilized country that such thing happens. It was also the foolishness of the sister who will not learn and know the word of God very well, but will depend and rely on every word of the pastor for her guide without establishing and confirming the truth by herself from the word of God- some of them foolishly respect the word of the pastor more than the authority and full interpretation of the scriptures. While some brethren from the same church advised her to leave the marriage contrary to the counsels of their pastor, she answered, my pastor says, I should not leave, but this was the same man which openly confessed the regrets of his foolish counsels to the young deceased woman; too late, the damages has been done by the enemy. God hates divorce does not mean that marriage is a do or dies issue. You should thank God for his deliverance from  the marriage which is demanding for your head in a charger – a prudent man sees evil and hides himself and avoids it, But the naive [who are easily misled] continue on and are punished. Proverbs 27:12. The burdens of our spouse are our burden. We should not murmur nor blame one another because of any of the problems both are expected to bear faithfully without betraying one another – to be supportive of one another because love does not fail and it endures. The sickness of the other spouse, their trials, lateness in child bearing, their temptations, poverty and whatever is the burden of our spouse, we should be there to share it together with them in prayer, joy, encouragements and love – bearing one another burden, and so fulfilling the law of Christ. To run away because your husband or wife is sick or poor and to go and re-marry elsewhere is evil, sinful and damnable. 1. Be faithful and holy to keep your marriage or lustful and promiscuous to lose it. God requires and command sexual faithfulness in our marital life and relationship – hence he commanded the marital bed should be undefiled, but whoremongers and adulterers will be judged. Hebrews 13: 4. Where the church fails to do the right thing to protect others for whatever reason, the laws of our land give room for divorce on strong ground and proofs of sexual infidelity. We should understand that the government laws of the land are the laws from God: the powers that be are established by God to punish the evildoers. Thou shall not commit adultery. This is not only to avoid infecting your spouse with fatal sexually transmittable diseases, but because of the vows taken before marriage to love and to hold on to him or her alone – to forsake others, and to cleave to him or her until death do you part. Sex is uniquely reserve for marriage between you and your spouse: any sexual encounter outside marriage is a sin of adultery before man and God. The covenant breaking and breakers breaks the heart and life of other party involves apart. Such dissapointed can lead to high blood pressure, mental problem and untimely death. Trust is betrayed. Love is betrayed. Affections and emotions are played against. Heart is broken. Promises are breached. Confidence is lost. Not everyone is mentaly strong enough to bear this – to forgive and to forget and move on together. We must all forgive as taught by the Lord, but many don’t want to remember it again, but as long as they kepp seeing the cheater and the guilty; their grief, emotional pain, doubts and insecurities increases as well. The shame is too much. The sight is unbearable and un-imaginable. The nakedness of the other spouse has been exposed to the strange man or woman outside, so, they preferred to keep their distance and to re-marry in the Lord. If the law of the land, because of marital or conjugal infidelity gives or makes room for divorce, the law of God gives much more power to divorce and to re-marry, only in the Lord, for the minister of the land and his law is ordained by God for the punishment of evil doers and for the praise of good doers. Romans 13: 1-4. The adultery or adulteress should know that love seeks not her own – it is not selfish. While they are seeking and pleading for mercy and forgiveness from their wounded spouse, the sustenance of their self- defiled and self-destroyed relationship depending on the abundance of the grace of God and the strength of heart of the wounded spouse – a brother, sister, husband, wife or a friend offended is harder to be won than a strong city; and their contentions are like the bars of a castle. Proverbs 18:19.  God will judge the sin of marital infidelity, though every sin shall be forgiven unto man, except the sin of blasphemy of the Holy Spirit. God can and will forgive, forget and wash away the sin of an adulterer or adulteress by the blood of Jesus, if it is sincerely confessed and forsaken, but as consequence, apart from the shame and reproach which shall not be wiped away, the sin could lead up to the price of losing your God given marriage because of unfaithfulness and promiscuous lifestyle. Moreover, if the offended spouse is not strong in the Lord, filled with love, filled with the spirit of God, filled with compassionate spirit to forbear, he or she can also go onto sexual infidelity revenge sphere or adventure,- his attitudes forever changed, and whenever the devil reminds him or her of the cheater, the unfaithful better half; he or she is mad as he sees the unseen stigma of immorality on the cheater, and is furious from within: but whoso commits adultery with a woman lacks understanding: he that doeth it destroys his own soul. A wound and dishonor shall he get; and his reproach shall not be wiped away. For jealousy is the rage of a man: therefore he will not spare in the day of vengeance. He will not regard any ransom; neither will he rest content, though thou give many gifts. Proverbs 6:32-35. 2. Be a peaceful and gentle believer to keep your marriage, or be contentious and troublesome to lose it. God has called us unto peace: and to build, not a house of commotion, but a peaceable habitation or dwelling place. He is the God of peace, and we are called to follow peace and holiness with all men, for the kingdom of God is righteousness, peace and joy in the Holy- Spirit. Romans 14:17. When a spouse receives the Lord as his/her personal Savior and his/her husband/wife of many years desire to keep the marriage despite the faith of the other spouse, they should not divorce such partner at the excuse or the ground of their newly found faith in the Lord. There is possibility of grace from the Lord that the unbelieving spouse might be saved by the faith and godly conducts of the believing partner. When and if your right for freedom of religion and worship as a believer is not fringed against or been denied of it, and the unbelieving spouse is not causing any trouble to stop, or fight because of your faith in Christ, you are forbidden by the holy writs to leave such marriage, but to stay and keep your marriage you’ve  building together before you found the Lord. 1 Cor. 7:13-14. Now, that we are in the Lord, it is unreasonable before God and unscriptural to leave a nice, good and gentle, but unbelieving, unsaved spouse, if he or she is not standing in your way of obedient to the Lord – likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word (unbelieving –unconverted husband), they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives. 1 Peter 3:1. Should in case the unbelieving spouse becomes an anti-Christ, and is demanding you to choose between the marriage or our Lord Jesus, then we are to prefer Christ above such oppressive spouse, and to go after the Lord – whosoever will lose his life, the same shall save it. You cannot, because you want to save a marriage, to abandon the Lord who is above all. The law of Christ and the love of God should come first as priority. The Lord God should be loved and obeyed above marital affections and submissions which are outside the frame work of his word. Any demand from a spouse against the written will of God in the holy writs should be politely, earnestly and firmly resisted and disobeyed – wives, submit yourselves to your husbands – obey, as it is fit in the Lord – not outside the bond of the scriptures and the will of God (Colossians 3:18), not as Sapphire cooperated with her husband in the name of loyalty to her husband in marriage to lie to the spirit of God and died as punishment. Who shall separate us from the love of God?  Such men and women are given the right to re-marry, only in the Lord, because of the evil demands on them, the persecution of their oppressive anti-religious and anti-Christ spouse, persecuting them for their testimony in the word of God, for their allegiance to the faith, love and kingdom of Christ. 1 Corinthians 7: 12-16. The husband is your little lord as Sarah called Abraham, he is not your worshipper. Like queen Vashti made herself a goddess to lose her marriage to the king, you should not make yourself a goddess desiring to be worshipped by your husband, but to honor him at home or public – beauty is deceitful. Proverbs 31:30. It is the duty of your husband to honor you as a weaker vessel in obedient to the word of God, you are his better half:  whoever loves his wife, love himself. Ephesians 5:28. The honor coming from your good behaviors and not from your beauty, is the same you are to expect as reciprocal of honor from your husband – it is the gracious (kind, courteous, pleasant, polite, civil, well-mannered, tactful, benevolent, diplomatic, considerate, thoughtful, and friendly) woman that retains honor. Proverbs 11:16. To be forcing things, imposing on your husband, and being quarrelsome is to be acting foolishly in an overbearing and contentious spirit – better is a dry morsel, and quietness therewith, than a house full of sacrifices with strife – you’re opening the door of your marriage to the enemy to enter. Proverbs 17:1. Who will give honor which is not seemly for a fool (Proverbs 26:1) to a contentious and disrespectful wife, if they are not under some kind of spell and bewitchment?  Except they living in a fool paradise can such thing be! As a jewel of gold in a swine’s snout, so is a fair woman which is without discretion. Proverbs 11:22.   The law of the land forbids physical violent, intimidation of any sort or verbal abuses in relationship; even the Lord tries the righteous: but the wicked and him that loves violence his soul hates. Psalms 11:5. Such behaviors traumatize the victims – kids and spouse abused with depression and panic attack etc. Love is to esteem other better than oneself. Where ever this is lacking, abuse is imminent and love is hurt. Love is respectful and is kind, not proud to behave itself unruly and unseemly. God hates aggression of any kind –verbal threats, insults or physical violence – there is that speaks like the piercings of a sword: but the tongue of the wise is health. Proverbs 12:18. It is more likely you lose your marriage as the result of a sharp razor tongue – a fool’s mouth is his destruction, and his lips are the snare of his soul. Proverbs 18:7. If the kindness and compassion God expects you should show to your spouse is tuned into wildness, and your animalistic spirit is frequently shown instead; you are at the risk to be ejected by the court or police from the house or from your marital home in order for peace to reign. We should never walk nor live in strife:  it is a damnable work of the flesh. Peace should be sought after in all our dealings, to resolve to peaceful dialogue, amicably with soft answer which turns away wrath. Wherever there is envy and strife, there is confusion and every evil work! James 3:16. Alas, who want to, and who can abide where there is confusion and every evil works? Husband and wife should not envy themselves for whatever reason, but to thank God for the promotions and prosperity and the blessings of their better half given to complement and complete the other half. Give a smile, and not to show dramas – kiss them with your mouth? and not to demean them with your tongue. When the government agents sent you out of your marital home or apartment because of your violent dealings, abusive and injurious words, they’ve been sent from the Lord because of your refusal to seek peace and to pursue it, to cultivate and manifest the fruit of peace, temperance, self-control and love in order to maintain peace at home. Bring and give love, joy and peace, but not a fight, quarrel and insults at home to your spouse – he that troubles his or her own house shall inherit the wind and loose it to who can bring peace and joy into it, says the holy writs! Proverbs11:29. What are you angry for as a wife or husband? But, even if you are angry for any genuine reason, should the sun go down on your anger to give place to Satan and spoil your home? Ephesians 4:26-27. Make no friendship with an angry man; and to a furious man thou shall not go, lest thou learn his ways and get a snare to your soul. Proverbs 22: 24-25. Must you be repeating the old issues which has been forgoten and thought to have been settled to bring to remebrance again? This kind of spirit is to break and scatter the marriage – Whoever would foster love covers over an offense, but whoever repeats the matter separates close friends. Proverbs 17:9. According to the word of God, separation, isolation and self- imposed marital exile measure should be chosen and taken into consideration than keeping company with a brawling man/woman in marriage – it is better to dwell in the corner of the housetop, than with a brawling man/woman in a wide house – It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman/man. Proverbs 21 verses 9 and 19. If the word of the Lord says it is better, then it is not good for the wife or husband to manage a wild, ill mannered and unruly spouse who refuses to change until it leads or brings to an un-expected, regrettable, but preventable incident, a calamitous end. Once have I received the baptism of hot baby milk from the feeding bottle of my newly born baby girl poured all over me as I  was going out of the house down the stairs to the church for bible study. It required going back to the house to change the entire dress and clean up my head and face. Years back in the U. S. A, an aggressive pastor’s wife assaulted her husband on the head with a thick glass of water, and he died as a result of the impact. Autopsy reveals the cause of his death as trauma of the attack. He will not speak out for shame, but he keeps the written diary and notes of the injuries received from her which was discovered after his death by the investigators – court case followed. If your sweetest heart and love of your life has now turned to become a mad dog and ravening wolf at home, it is better to despise shame and expose such untamed animal before it tears you into pieces and ruins your peace, love, joy, life forever. Speak out to let the people around you realize your experiences and what you are going through with the chameleon Christian you called a wife or husband. Put aside the shame of your disappointing marital dreams, expectations and situations because you cannot hide the wind nor retain it than to speak out what you feel – a continual dropping in a very rainy day and a contentious woman are alike. Whosoever hides her hides the wind, and the ointment of his right hand, which betrays itself. Proverbs 27: 15-16.  3. Be content in Christ satisfaction and keep your marriage or be greedy and covetous to lose it. The value of some Christian marriages today are weighed and balanced on the scale of financial and material possessions and inheritance, not on the life and walk in the spirit of a spouse. Did he or she drives a car – what type of car? What is his/her university qualification? What is his or her basic salary? Even, a believer who has received the word of God on the thorny ground has the word choke to death by the cares of this world and the deceitfulness of riches, how much more is a marriage built or founded on the premise of the modern day prosperity believer’s mindset. If we are truly led by the spirit of God to the bone of our bone and the flesh of our flesh, all those things will not matter to us because we know that God shall supply for all need, that if we have food to eat and clothes to wear, it should be enough. What was the factor of divorce and separation between Lot from his wife? It was the love of materials of the world then as she looked back to become a pillart of salt. What divorced Judas from Christ?  It was the love of money. Marriage vow is for richer or poorer. But the slogan is now for richer I stay, and for poorer I go. For richer you can earn my respect, and for poorer, you get insulted and humiliated by me. Money, not genuine love determines many marriages today, even in the church. Covetousness is causing more than half percentage of divorces today, even in the church. The bible is very clear that you can lose your salvation and heaven because of the love of money; much more or less you may end up losing your marriage through covetousness. The life of a man does not consist on the abundance of his inheritance or possession. The success and value of your marriage should never be placed on your bank statement of account. Your wife or husband should never be compared to another’s for whatever reason; this is not acceptable before God.  Some years back in Amsterdam, a Congolese pastor came to me for help him to translate him from French language to English to a German lawyer who was handling his wife’s case. She was controlled and caught in the train for drug trafficking on her way to Hungary. She was with twins’ embryo in her womb, but she eventually lose the babies to miscarriage due to much stress in the process or procedure of her arrest – case. Godliness with contentment is a great gain…..the pastor pretended as if he knew nothing about the drug trafficking business of the spouse, and finally re-married while the woman was serving her time in prison. Such action of the pastor is sinful as a traitor, an illegal remarriage. They’ve both been living flamboyantly beyond their means in the past, now, she was called a witch. This is the fruit of covetousness – to seek to have, and to seek to achieve, by involving yourself in things too high for you – beyond your financial means or income. How many women has treacherously departed and abandoned their marriage because they found a highest and better bidder who has promised heaven and earth for pleasure, possessions and caring which God and her husband were not able to do or provides for her? Covetousness is idolatry, and the enemy is using it to destroy many lives and home in exchange for better life and marriages even the among the so – called born again Christians. So many foolish and greedy souls are drawn away into the race of competition and comparison with friends and neighbors while they run into the trap of stealing, conjugal infidelity or cheating and lying to have more money. Some wives are unfaithful in their marriages to commit adultery for increasing purchasing power to buy happiness and latest vogue, jeopardizing their souls for eternal destruction, plunging their marriages into present predicament and destruction. Sex is not for sale in Christian marriage, and it should not be an instrument to manipulate your wife or husband. Except during the monthly menstrual period or during fasting period, based on mutual agreement and understanding, sex should be freely enjoyed and given according to the demand of the spouse, lest you become an occasion to sin for your spouse. Neither the husband nor the wife should exercise any power over his or her body, but the husband has power over the wife’s body and vice versa. Both has the right for mutual caress and romances: to uncover and to sexually enjoy one another at any time without any resistance from the other party: this is marital right of each spouse for the love and consummation of their union – Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. 1 Corinthians 7:3. It is wickedness for a Christian wife be heard saying she was raped by her husband. It is also wickedness for a wife to be starved or pushed aside for her demand for intimacy with her husband. To whom she should go? Except someone is medically sick, then should they be excused from sex, giving them time to recover. If a spouse should think the mood is not there while the other is advancing, they should bring back the mood from where ever it is been suspended or travelled to, and be connected immediately with their spouse, never to quench the fire of intimacy, lest one be discouraged -avoid pride, selfishness and unbiblical excuses not to have sex, so as not to destroy your marriage. The Christian women should be wise and good to manage resources; we are called unto godliness with contentment. To put an unnecessary financial demands, goals and expectations on your husband when you know his income before you marries him, is to become like the two daughters of horse leach crying, give, give – it is to waery and frustrate him, possibly distract his devotion to God and derays him. Proverbs 30:15.  Where there is unity, and one purpose of heart, the Lord will bless the home of the righteous, the Lord will increase them more and more, they and their children. The virtuous –industrious woman is a crown to her husband – supportive and dependable – for she will do him no harm or evil, all the days of his life and his heart trust in her. She seeks wool, and flax, and works willingly with her hands. She is like the merchants’ ships; she brings her food from afar. She rises also while it is yet night, and gives meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens. She considers a field, and buys it: with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard. She girds her loins with strength, and strengthens her arms. She perceives that her merchandise is good: her candle goes not out by night. She lays her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff. She stretches out her hand to the poor; yea, she reaches forth her hands to the needy. She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet. She makes herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple. Her husband is known in the gates, when he sits among the elders of the land. She makes fine linen, and sells it; and delivers girdles unto the merchant. Strength and honor are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come. She opens her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness. She looks well to the ways of her household, and eats not the bread of idleness. Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her. Many daughters have done greatly, but you – she exceeds and excels them all. Beauty is deceitful, and favor is vain, but the woman who fears the Lord shall be praised. Proverbs 31:13-31.